Every relationship has problems. And they lead to arguments — which often don’t go anywhere and just make things worse. Do you know that you can save you relationship within 30 seconds! Check out, here are some tips for you whenever things go wrong:
partners are able to cope with pain and discomfort when holding hands. This is because, the act of holding hands decreases the level of stress hormones in the body
Step 1: Pause
It’s perfectly clear that when you get angry you get hot. It feels like there is a fire burning inside you. Well that fire dies down with a pause. Right now, you should not think of the past nor the future, what you are required to do, is to think about now. This can be practically done by taking three deep breaths, and take full attention on your in-breath and out-breath.
Step 2: Approach & interlock
Just approach your loved one and interlock your fingers with theirs for about 10 seconds. Remember, “It is impossible to get mad if you are holding hands”. A related study showed that the partners are able to cope with pain and discomfort when holding hands. This is because, the act of holding hands decreases the level of stress hormones in the body.
Step 3: Heart to heart Embrace.
In this step, just embrace your loved one with heart to heart tight hug. Hugs intervene at the physical level to help the brain and the body calm down from overwhelming states of anxiety, panic and shame.
As you embrace, close your eyes and breathe in. Match the tempo of your breath and theirs and become aware that you both are alive.
The last step, but not the least. When still embracing, try to think where you will be in three hundred (300) years to come. How does it feel like to know one day you will be gone an forgotten.
After about 20 seconds or so, open your eyes. I guarantee that you will realize how precious it is to be alive. You and your love both alive just in this planet to choose love. Hence ask your partner if really what you were fighting about is worthy it.